Makeup Shaming: NOT STUPID but I don't like it

I would like to...apologize if I sounded harsh in a bad way in my "If...scenario" about "If...women weren't forced to wear makeup". You can go find it. It's under the label you think it's under.

I would like to say to Makeup Artists that

If...women weren't forced to wear makeup...

These days it seems that the natural look is the look that is in.

You know, "in"?

Many celebs like Lady Gaga seem to have gone for a natural look of natural-color makeup or no makeup.

It's kinda sad I recognized Sofia Vergara from the right-hand side
pic as she has commonly been seen on Ellen.
She looks fine on the left, too.

I never wear makeup.

I see it as a good thing. I mean, makeup is expensive, it can damage your skin, it's fake, and there's lots of bad stereotypes for women who wear too much makeup.

I don't think women should be forced to wear makeup anymore. Sure in the medieval days they HAD to because it was part of the fashion and in those days everything was very gender-separated.

But now, today, there are too many genders to keep track of so what's the point of wearing makeup anymore besides hiding blemishes or wrinkles?

I have no problem with older people wearing makeup or people with Acne wearing makeup. But the rest of us? Nah, we don't need that ish.

Now, back to the title...imagine a world where women are not forced to wear makeup and answer to the social gender stereotypes.

How to Solve the Female Rubik's Cube

Someone on BuzzFeedYellow just said that women are like Rubik's Cubes. Well, actually it had to do with sex, but I don't talk about those things here.

It seems right, though, that when women are said to be complicated, they are just like Rubik's Cubes.

And I still haven't figured out my own puzzle and I don't know if I EVER will. Yes, for those of you who haven't realized, I am a girl. Er, young woman, maybe.

Anyway, maybe I can give guys some tips on how to solves us?????

So, red...hmmm...maybe anger...

When women are angry, DO NOT TELL THEM TO CALM DOWN.
That's like poking a frustrated lion with a stick. IT JUST GETS WORSE, guys. RAWR.

I would just... let the anger run its course. Just nod at her every word, don't fight back. If the situation doesn't seem to calm down, you leave the room and come back. But let her know where you're going and that you're coming back. Otherwise... "WHERE DA HECK DO YOU THINK YOU'RE GOING?!" will happen.

Guys might be like fight, fight, punch, scream, okay we're good, love ya bro. But women have more expression of feelings and sometimes they just need to let it all out. Vent. Come back. And hopefully they've checked back on the situation so that maybe they will forgive you and love you again. Depends. Unless, of course, you've cheated on her. Then yeah, your fault man.

DISCLAIMER: I am not a couple's counselling professional. Not all of my words may be helpful.

Orange...period.
The female period comes in all shapes and sizes. It's all I can say.

Yellow...um...idk.

Green is envy. DO NOT CHEAT ON HER if you truly care about her and love her.  For me, I don't like a guy who boasts about himself or doesn't make the lines clear between his girlfriend and his friend that is a girl. Don't touch her, I said! But I don't say because envy is very ugly. I'm going off on a tangent. Hope you guys know what you're doing.

Blue. Sadness. If she has had a bad day and is looking down and if you know just the things, like food or other things that she likes, give it to her. If she just wants to talk, don't ask her what's wrong, tell her you're there to listen if there is anything she would like to talk about. Tell her you'll be completely focused and listen to her. Women want their men to listen to them and be there for them. THAT'S WHAT MAKES US FEEL LOVED GUYS. This is very important in a relationship. A guy who doesn't listen, well, the girl is just wasting her life on ya.

HARSH but THE TRUTH.

White. What da heck is this color. If you guys reading this are wondering, I have dated a guy that only thought about what HE wanted and what HE liked and didn't care if he was putting my safety in jeopardy, that frickin idiot. If you don't want to be called a frickin idiot behind your back, I suggest to listen to your woman and be there for her and think about what she might like or what might make her happy. THAT'S WHAT MAKES HER FEEL LOVED.

So, hopefully you guys read this. Hopefully maybe one of you is single and you and I can have something going... maybe not :P

I'm an educated young woman who vents and talks on blogs and writes stories and likes abandoned buildings and makes up different versions of "Let It Go" in my room so you might be in for a storm.

I put the caption and words in myself :D
Plus, I did this in like less than 5min.
Anyways...
See ya later alligators!

7-7 What to talk about or NOT with a guy on first meet-up day.

So, believe it or not I HAVE been on "dates". I say "dates" because to me it was just two friends getting together to have a cup of coffee and those two friends happen to be the opposite sex.

I suppose a lot of girls and young women who aren't very experienced in this world don't always know that right questions or topics to talk about with a guy because, let's face it, women and men are like two different species. It's like a lizard and a bunny and I'm not saying which is which; this is just for comparison. We can be so humongously different that sometimes we can't STAND to be around each other.

Anyway, here are some questions and topics I ask and talk about when I have a first encounter with a new guy who I could or could not be interested in pursuing a relationship. You can do as I do but keep in mind that I am STILL trying to understand this different species called "men". Also, the first set of questions are basically in order from 1-4.


MUST ASK QUESTIONS ON FIRST MEET-UP / FIRST ENCOUNTER

1. So, how old were you again?
To me, asking how old someone is is kinda rude. So I say "again" even though they haven't told me before. This question links to the next one.

2. Do you work or are you a student or...?
I like to keep this vague. To give the guy an open question. Not just "Do you work?" because that only brings out a simple "yes" or "no". I try to ask questions in a way so the guy won't answer so very simply. I have had guys that don't really want to talk about themselves unless they're specifically asked "What is your work?"

3. Work version: So what is it exactly that you do? Do you enjoy it?
3. Student version: What's your major? I know a lot of people must ask you this but, why did you choose "such and such major name here"?
These questions show that you want to get to know them. Anyway, that's what I think. Also, just a people thing, but generally I have found that and heard that people like to talk about themselves. It's nice to know that someone is almost as interested in what you are passionate about or just your life in general. People like to be heard.

4. What do you do in your free time? / What is your hobby?
Again, like 3, people love talking about themselves. And here, don't try to force-like something that the guy likes. But don't say you don't like it either. Just show vague interest. Get them to talk more about it. I think guys like girls who are interested, don't you?
EXAMPLE: "Your work sounds like it takes up a lot of time. But when you do have time, what do you like to do? Any hobbies or..."
See, the vagueness of the end part of the conversation? I do that a lot. I don't know if it's good but I like to keep the questions open. Some people don't have hobbies but they have a side job that they love to do in their free time or something like that. Really, I HAVE met guys who have no hobbies.


Other questions you can ask if you're interested in this guy and want to show it more:

5. Do you have siblings?
After you're tired of talking about "light" stuff like hobbies and such you can go personal somewhat.

6. Any pets?
This is a must for me because if I go far in the relationship I don't want to suddenly find out the guy I'm dating hates cats with a passion or doesn't care at all about the well-being of animals.

7. When they don't have pets but want one: If you could have any kind of pet, any kind at all, what kind of pet would you like to have?
Just a fun question. You can talk about, say, the pros and cons of having a pet iguana or a pet kangaroo even though they may be impossible. If you know anyone with strange pets, you can talk about that, too.

Well, for me, that's probably about all the questions I would ask on first encounter. Just for meaty conversation, you know?

The next list is "Questions to Definitely Avoid" (in my opinion and from what I've heard).


DANGER BEWARE questions

1. Do you have any girlfriends?
Girl, don't sound so needy. Even if you are desperate to find a guy, do not ask this question unless either he asks you first or you decide to go on a second or third date.

2. What do you look for in a girl?
This is treading thin ice in my opinion. You are slightly letting the guy control how you act and dress by asking him the kind of girl he likes. After answering, some guys might think you'll act or dress that way the next time you meet, if you do. If you're not true to yourself, it's is so freakishly easy to tell that you are being fake. Do you want the guy to like you the way you are or not?

3. How much money do you make?
Just no. Too personal and what are you, a gold digger?

4. DO NOT ASK ABOUT THEIR SEX LIFE!!!

5. I know this sounds crazy, but don't ask them to marry you on first encounter.
They will freak out unless they have the same mindset. Don't scare them away.

6. Don't tell them about your preferences in a guy. Girl, your stakes are too high.
Not all guys will meet every single criteria of Mr. Perfect. There will be some things that you like and some things that you might just need to learn to like if you want to have a relationship with that particular guy. I heard some relationship-expert lady say you shouldn't tell a guy your preferences for a guy because then he'll try to meet all your expectations so that he could get to you. But that will only make him a fake.

7. Don't tell them about your sex life or about the pros and cons of past boyfriends.
For past boyfriends, don't tell too much either when they ask. Try not to rant too much even though those boyfriends may have gotten on your nerves.


Well, that's about it. Hope I shed some light on your darkened path toward finding the "right guy". Good luck, fellow girls and young women.